You, Them and Your Cellphones.
If you really love someone, you open up to them and give them the code to your cellphone.
Wait, what?!!! Yes, we are going there!!!! After all, we all spend a significant amount of time on our cellphones. Therefore, if we are really going to let someone into our hearts, lives, world’s – we need to let them into our cellphones and give up that cellphone code.
Every healthy relationship is built on love and one ingredient necessary for real to exist is trust. To be able to really give someone your all, you need to be sure that you can trust that they will appreciate it. Moreover, if you are giving them all of the real you. It means there are little to no secrets, at least for the foreseeable future, until they gain your absolute trust.
The Cellphone Code Test
Now, it is one thing to want to hold back from confessing all if the relationship we are in is a casual one. If that’s the case, there is no need for the other person to know your life story. However, if you have made a committment to go all in and marriage, children and living together are all distinct possibilities.
At that point, you probably need to be ready to give up the cell phone access code and even receive the other person’s too. Some of us instinctively start to consider what we are giving up or losing in such a situation. However, it’s worth remembering what we gain from such openess and vulnerability too.
As always, action speaks louder than words and the gesture of giving up your cellphone code to your significant other sends them an important and really strong message. It lets them know that you trust them a lot and that you have nothing to hide. It tells them that they are a priority in your life and that you are committed to them. Everyone knows how sacrosanct our cellphone codes are to us nowadays and letting another person have that access gives them the impression that you are exclusively interested in having a serious relationship with them.
The Love Unlocked Through Trust
The implications of such a grand gesture is that it puts the onus on the other person to reciprocate and give up their cellphone code too. After all, it takes two to Bacchata and if only one person is open enough to share their cellphone code, it kind of negates the high level of trust that one of the two people have shown. Trust is a two way street and if only one of the two people in a relationship trust each other the relationship will probably have a very limited ceiling.
Nevertheless, every adult knows that there is no need for us to know everything about a person for us to be able to love them. The main thing we need to be certain of is that the other person definitely loves us. Which means that even when we do give up a cellphone code. There may well be a secret or two we will never ever share with our significant other. The same may well be true for them too. Again, as long as the love is real, there is no need for us to know everything about the other person.
Cellphone codes nevertheless are significant because it says I almost trust you completely and I trust you more than almost everyone else. Such a statement is close enough to perfection to give a serious relationship serious potential. This is because if one’s trust level is that high presently. With time, that same trust could deeper.
Mutual Trust For Love Is A Must
Ultimately though, it is ideal for this type of trust to be mutual. As mutual trust is the only type of trust that can produce a foundation strong enough to support a serious relationship. Loving someone that has trust issues or still has their guard up can feel lonely and like hard work.
On the other hand, being in a relationship where mutual trust is present heightens intimacy. Which increases the intensity of the love that both parties feel. In this scenario both parties risk it all for the other person and likewise benefit from their mutual decision to be vulnerable.
This is that real love that Mary J Blige was singing about. It is the type of love you can only experience when you and the other person are equally invested and committed within a relationship.
It is 100 percent high risk, high reward. However, this level of committment brings out the best and the most from the person you are with, provided they are committed as much as you are.
This type of love is physical, emotional, spiritual and to get to the point, complete. It is high risk, high reward because we risk it all, ideally en route to winning it all. When it comes to love, you, yes you, deserve it all.
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