Looking At Age & Love
When it comes to love, does someone’s age matter, or is their age, why you love them?
Aaliyah, one of the greatest RnB singers of all time, taught us that age is just a number. Many humans would agree with her and advise that it’s about quality, more so than quantity. In other words, who and how a person is, is more important than their age.
Few could dispute the logic behind the quality over quantity (of years, age) argument. However, two things can be true at the same time. Whilst quality, or as Martin Luther King Jnr would put it – the content of one’s character – is a great way to appraise someone.
No Guarantees In Love
Sometimes, ignoring age altogether is a mistake too. Youth often is wasted on the young however, there are always exceptions to every rule. Which is precisely when it pays to bet on age. Put a different way, there are times when having experience helps us recogize a pattern from the past and make the right decision. Nevertheless, by the same token expecting things to unfold the same way as previously experienced, can lead to big mistakes. One of the main lessons life, or the Universe tries to teach us is that we have to focus in on the moment and let our instincts guide us.
Admittedly, instincts can lead to mistakes and have flaws too. Nevertheless, less mistakes, are likely to come from living in the moment. Than from blindly or religiously adhering to dogma or principles. This is exactly how life is able to teach us that sometimes age is the very reason we are successful. Either we are too young, original and unique to take the well trodden path. Instead opting to do things our way en route to finding our own versions of success. Conversely, experience and having had the time to make a wide variety of mistakes, affords us firsthand knowledge that explains why we are able to make far better, more successful choices, going forward.
Try Before You Buy
Moreover, it is probably a good idea for us all to bear in mind that we all occupy different positions and have different truths. What we see as being in our best interest, is different from what may be in the next person’s best interest. Parenthood, race, gender, star sign, etc etc are just some of the reasons why what is right for one person, might be wrong for another.
Furthermore, sometimes us human beings are just too judgemental and intelligent for our own good. Too often we act like we are all knowing and/or put too many restrictions on who we’d entertain romantically.
Life is about the journey. There’s no such thing as a detour and everyone we meet, teaches us something we needed to learn. Far too often we have it in mind to go from where we are (point A) to our soulmate or forever love (point B) in one linear, gracious, smooth, trip.
Which is unrealistic and unhelpful for all involved. The drought is what makes us truly appreciate the rain. Past pain and failures are the reasons we truly appreciate health, love and success. Therefore, we need to stop taking ourselves so seriously and overthinking everything because our intelligence and ability to predict the future are limited. If someone meets the essential criteria of what we are looking for in a romantic partner we should be open enough to give that person a chance. For like them, we have our imperfections too and would want the next person to give us a chance to prove ourselves. For this reason it is only right for us to treat people how we want to be treated.
Moreover, if things eventually do end up going left, us taking a chance is a bet of faith on ourselves, that we will be smart and strong enough to survive. It also is a bet of faith in the Universe too. As us taking a chance, signifies that we (rightfully) expect something good to come from doing so.
Underlying all of this is the fact that we need to allow time, to teach us if a person is right for us. The concept of age is an important one for a relationship itself, in addition to the ages of the individuals in the relationship.
All of which means we now end this article almost exactly where we begun it. Age is just a number, but sometimes that number is exactly why you may win or lose. However, life is too short for you to worry about which way things will end up for you.
Eventually, as a relationship ages, time will tell and will give you clarity on whether you are in the right situation for you.
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