Embracing “The Fumble” To Bring Out The Best In You.

Fumbling, A Part Of Life.

One of the unavoidable parts of life is having to go through the experience of “the fumble“.

Sometimes you are the one fumbling. Other times, you are the one being fumbled. The latter, is what this article is about. The reason for this is, getting to a point of mastery. Where your fumbles become increasingly rare.  Is what life is about and hopefully this journey of life is something you are already gradually getting better at.

What can really be tough to wrap your head around though is why somebody else would fumble you. After all, your genuine, you add value and the competition is none because there is only one of you. What you bring to the table – nobody else can because your usp’s (unique selling points) are exclusive to you.

All of which begs the question, if you are so amazing – why do other people seem to consistently fumble you. To let you to tell it, you’re ready to upgrade someone Beyoncé/Jay-Z style. So again, if this is true, why the fumbles?

It’s Nothing Personal

Well, it’s both simple and complicated at the same time. The main reason for the apparent difference of opinions comes down to self interest. You actually may well be what is the other person’s best interest. However, whether they know or believe this is what it all comes down to. Moreover, even if they do know this to be true, are they willing to be humble enough to concede this and give you your flowers? Apparently not.

Moreover, human beings are well known to be creatures of habit. Often sticking to what is tried and “true” despite actually wanting more than what they are currently getting. If you are in a situation where exposure to this other person is consistent, there may come a time where they will stop fumbling you. However, if your exposure to them is a one off. It is unlikely they will be able to make good of the opportunity that is you.

Moreover, if your values and theirs are a mismatch. That is, their life values prioritizes other things above having someone like you in their lives. Like, for example, their career, other life goals, etc. It is easy to see why another person would choose something or someone else, instead of you.

Ultimately, no matter who we are, or how much freedom we have. We all, are bound to fulfil are own unique destiny’s. Put a different way, what is meant for you, will meet you. Whenever this happens, a major clue that will let you know that this is the case is the non-fumbling.

According to Pareto’s law, 80 percent of everything can be classed as the majority. Whilst the top 20 percent can be classed as the top tier. All of which means that 80 percent of people may well fumble you. However, the remaining 20 percent (i.e. the non-fumbling crew) those are the ones you should be paying attention to.

The Salvation Of Self-Love.

As previously noted, self love is law number one of being single. Law number two of being single may well be to only choose those that are able to mirror the love you give yourself. Non-fumbling is just the beginning, love though is the litmus test that lets you know whether to allow a relationship to continue.

After all, if you were obeying rule number one and loving yourself before the other person came along. The last thing you need is for that other person to give you anything less than love and/or to drain or interrupt the dynamic of love that you were showing yourself.

A fumble, is just a sign of incompatibility. Loving yourself, should free you up from being needy or desperate or simply too quick to jump on the first opening or opportunity that comes your way.

Enjoy the process. Live in the moment. Take things one step at a time and simply pay attention to the actions of other person. Are they fumbling? Whatever they are doing, will let you know what you need to do. If they are making the most of things, you all can move forward, step by step. If opportunities are being wasted, they are fumbling and you should put your attention elsewhere e.g. yourself, your career, friends, family and alternatives.

Fumbling, is a part of life. We all fumble, sometimes we do, sometimes, it is the people around us that do.

As Long As You’re Fumbling Forward

We can came into this life fumbling, our way towards learning how to walk. In other words, we fumbled forward. Rather than putting our heads in the sand and acting like fumbling is something we know nothing about. We should instead face the fumbles occuring in our lives and learn the lessons each fumble is telling us.

Is this fumble the type that can be overcome or characterised as fumbling forward? Or is the fumble of the more deep rooted type that indicates a serious mismatch. Is it the type that would mean that your best self, would become your worst self, because you’d be going backwards?

Perhaps even more than in the NFL (National Football League). The statistics on the fumbles that are happening in your life, contain priceless information that you have to pay attention to.

Never take it personally.
Everybody gets fumbled.
As ever, what is important though is how you react to the fumbling. Accept the challenge, embrace it and use it as motivation. Resolve to make it so that if you are going to get fumbled, it’ll at least be your best self (in every sense of the word) getting fumbled. Which means it is the other person’s loss.

Be sure to have your own back through it all. Instead of fumbling the opportuntity to show the self love and self esteem that you have for yourself. Tell yourself through words and action that the world may fumble you, but you never will.