Where Is The Love?
Listening and talking to black women, reveals one thing: black women have a unique struggle that only they are aware of. We all are facing struggles that no one else is privy to. However, this article is about taking time out to let black women know that they are indeed unconditionally loved by some.
2026 is a weird place to be from a love stand point. It feels like love gets misinterpreted as hate or deceit. It also seems like real life encounters are often monotone, almost lifeless. Like people are no longer into interacting in person any more.
Like interacting has been solely outsourced to being done online, through an app (social media).
Well, despite all of the bs. The apparent “new rules” and norms that society is living by. The truth is that black women (by some) have always been unconditionally loved and always will be.
To repeat, it sometimes does feel that confessing as much in real life, produces questionable results. So, it makes perfect sense to instead confess as much online in an article.
The truth is, that black women have (to some degree) always been loved. One of the commonalities shared throughout humanity is that we are influenced by what we see firsthand. In much of the Caribbean, black people are a majority. Which means the black woman, is definitely seen by (Caribbean) black men.
Furthermore, for some (Caribbean) black men, the black woman is more than just seen, she is put on a pedestal.
Seen as the mother of humanity and a preference. Some black men will even go so far as to exclusively date black women.
Some cultural evidence of this are songs like LL Cool J’s Around The Way Girl, Tarrus Riley’s She’s Royal and Yakstar’s Brand New Single Roar.
On our YouTube channel, Pliers of Chaka Demus & Pliers fame can be seen praising Trinidadian women for their “special beauty”.
Jah Melody can be seen proclaiming that Trini women are the greatest.
Ricky T can be seen declaring that St. Lucian women are the “most beautiful Women in the World”.
Footage can be seen of Asa Banton singing live ” we doh want no foreign gyal…strictly local!!!!!!”.
Despite it all, it sometimes feel like all of this love, is falling on deaf ears. Another truism of life is our reality and life experience is shaped by our beliefs. The reality is, if black women doubt these declarations of love, they lose most or even all of their power.
Furthermore, if these public declarations contradict, the personal experiences of these women. It would explain why black women would be reluctant to accept the public declarations of love.
Nevertheless, it is important for black women to be reminded that there are two sides to every coin. Some black men will have a preference to date different women outside of their race. Whilst others will prefer and even insist, on only dating black women.
Black history, recent and otherwise shows that black people face obstacles, that people from other races, will never have to. Wealth and the fair accessibility of financial power, (even in 2026) still has a long way to go.
This lack of financial power, feeds into a lack of representation (in a world ordered by captialism). A lack of institutions that facilitate discussion. Which basically means that black people, (like the rest of humanity), are weirdly silent about the weird silence that seems to be prevalent everywhere.
We have bottlenecks.
The US has been the epicenter of black expression, media and culture. However, in 2026, this no longer seems to be the case. Black Americans seem to have their hands full.
Pop The Balloon Or Find Love and other local versions and spinoffs are recent examples of black love being real. However, watching any of these shows reveals another truth. That we are all rookies at this black love thing.
Like, is it a crime to date someone and then decide if we want to keep on dating them? Why are we so fast to reject?
Somehow, the growth of black love in reality has been stunted. Even though on paper, it would seem like a given, in places like the Caribbean.
The Million Dollar question is: why is this the case?
This is obviously a difficult and complex question to answer. However, the answer to the question probably lies in the fact that Capitalism has a lot of people in survival mode.
Capitalism has a lot of people prioritising quantity (of money) over quality (of love). Many Caribbean and non Caribbean people, leave where they are from (or the Caribbean) to maximise their earning potential. For all of these reasons (mentioned so far) love and especially black love, is challenging.
Black Love, The Win/Win (That Brings Wealth & Love) For Men & Women.
Black loneliness and black love from afar. Ah well, that is easy!!! Perhaps, the apps and social media route provide any easier way for black love to record wins. However, what do any of those wins mean if black love looks so hit and miss in real life?
What is particularly concerning is, the fact that black love is an answer to the economic hardship faced by many in the Caribbean. Forget a marriage, black love can produce a mortgage. If all else fails, at least there would be ownership and no need for a divorce.
Instead of feeling asinine after a break up, we’d potentially have an asset. If black progress is being held back across the globe sytematically. It is to ensure that people never realise this better, easier, reality.
Where black men and women are working together and smarter, to produce superior results than if they were doing it all alone. The ugly, unspoken truth is that some Caribbean people consciously and actively work against black love precisely because, it is a great way forward for the region.
There is zero reason for us to reinvent the wheel or be ingenius. Healthy relationships between genders, family and community members. Is the simple solution that is capable of underpinning, regional success long term.
Nevertheless, another cold and hard truth to swallow is that, some Caribbean people are still loyal to promoting their individual best interests whilst they actively oppose the interests of the group.
Some black women/men are diametrically opposed to (local) love because their allegiance is to money and the status quo of the global power structure. This is of course their right and real love is unconditional anyway.
It is understandable that Caribbean people, like everybody else, are serious about collecting their coins. However, it is time for Caribbean people to wake up and do the simple math. Love, black or otherwise is a part of you taking care of your coins.
A significant other or partner is also potentially a life and business partner. Potentially when you find a partner, you find someone that can at least split the costs of your rent in half. You find someone that you can potentially explore homeownership with and build a business empire.
Only the unwise leave love out of the equation. Love always has and always will be the main reason you excel in getting to the bag. That, is The Secret, as explained by Rhonda Byrne in her classic book.
All we can do is give (the black woman) love unconditonally. The response, is out of our control. Nevertheless, the response takes nothing away from the beauty, power and benefits of love.
These last forever, regardless.
Ps notice how the same is also true of black men and how this article is relevant to everyone regardless of gender or race.
We are all facing similar challenges, regardless of gender or location and as always, love is, the answer.
